We drain-up ourselves when we carry burdens which are supposed to be carried by the Lord Himself. We rely on our own strength rather than on God who wants us to cast our cares upon Him. In truth, He is the one who knows best how to help us with our problems. We can be there for our brothers and sisters in Christ, yet we are to commit their burdens to the Lord, and not putting those yoke upon our shoulders. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we should encourage them to commit their burdens to Him who is there for them. It is not the Lord's will to drain us with other people's problems, it is His will for us to entrust our cares upon Him, so we will not be distracted by those burdens and be able to focus on our walk with Him, which is our God-given highest priority.

I personally think that the best approach to care for others is to be there for them, encourage them to turn to the Lord. We are to do this with His love, His wisdom, His strength. This can only be done when we avail ourselves for Him to use us, to show Himself through us. Only then they can feel His love, His concern and all for them, and see Jesus through us. It is Him who should be shown through our actions, to help them through us, to love them through us.

In Him,
~Lawrence~

Matthew 11:28-30 (New Living Translation)
Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light."